What's the Food Like?

Updated May 25, 2016 |
What's the Food Like?
You child will have many questions about boarding school. Here is one way to handle those inevitable questions and concerns.
Sending your child off to boarding school raises all sorts of important questions for your child. After all, she is a teenager. Leaving home is a major step for kids going off to college much less a kid going off in ninth or tenth grade to boarding school. And those college kids are four and five years older than she is. So be patient and be proactive. Anticipate her questions and concerns. What I strongly recommend is that you try think about what your child's questions and concerns will be. You know her like the back of your hand anyway.
 
Almost all the schools on your short list will have web sites which can answer most of her questions. For answers to her remaining or more detailed questions email the admissions offices. They will be very happy to help.
 
So, what's the food like? Food is important to teenagers. As it should be. Truth is that boarding schools have dealt with teenagers for years. They understand the kind of nutrition growing bodies need. Indeed teaching students about nutrition is something boarding schools have baked into their programs.
 
Here is an example of what I mean from the web site for St. Timothy's School, Stevenson, Maryland.

 

"Great food and excellent service are the hallmarks of Dining Services at St. Timothy’s School. We meet the wide rangie of tastes and meal preferences of our student body with healthy, varied and wholesome meals.  Many items are made from scratch, and homemade pastries and desserts are made fresh daily." 

Or this from Salisbury School, Salisbury, Connecticut:

"The Dining Hall is open for breakfast, lunch, dinner and morning break. Everything from nutritious soups and salads to sandwiches and hot entrees are served. There is a selection of meals and desserts large enough to suit every one. Most meals are cafeteria style, with traditional sit-down lunches on Mondays and Thursdays. During sit-down meals, boys dine with their faculty advisor and fellow advisees. "

 

 

What are the dorms like?

 

 
Boarding schools place just as much importance on dorms as they do on food. Your daughter's room at home is her special place. All the posters, her bed, the colors and all her stuff reflect who she is. Suddenly she's not going to have her own room and any of her stuff? Read about the dorms at The Madeira School, McLean, Virginia.  This kind of set up is fairly typical.
 
If you have never seen a boarding school dorm, don't despair. They are not going to look like something out of Architectural Digest. They will be compact, clean, functional living quarters for two or three students. Resist the temptation to do what one mother did a few years ago when she saw her daughter's dorm room for the first time. She demanded to see the head of school. When she met him, the parent stated that her daughter's accommodation was unacceptable. Not up to their standards. She was prepared to write a check for $100,000 so the school could make some refurbishments. I don't recall how the matter was settled although I think the school repainted the dorm.  

Here is a tour of a dorm at Randolph-Macon Academy, Port Royal, Virginia.
Student dorms are what they are. Students have a knack for making any space habitable. She will be just fine. To get her used to the idea arrange an overnight for her. Most schools will be happy to do that.
 
Who will be my friends?
 
Eventually she will know everybody at her boarding school. Most boarding schools are small to medium sized institutions with 300-400 students. It won't take her long to know everybody by sight. Friends? Making friends takes time, as we both know, but a boarding school tends to speed up the process. The time frame of just about everything shrinks in a boarding school simply because you are living with your classmates 24/7. This video shows a typical day at Ridley College, St. Catherines, Ontario, Canada.
Can I take French?
 
Finally we are out of the weeds and sailing in clear water! Those highly subjective and personal subjects like food, dorms and friends have to be handled with all the adroitness and parental acumen you can muster. But academics? You will have clear sailing here. Boarding school academics offer so many choices and options that it will be like going on a shopping trip with her mother. I can almost hear the excited conversations. "Mom! They offer three years of French. And the teacher went to the Sorbonne. What do you think? I really wanted to take physics too...." It's just like going into a store to buy jeans and they have every brand and style of jeans you could ever want. 
 
Take time to explore each school's curricula. Then you will be able to affirm your daughter's choices as she makes them.
 
What about my horse?
 
She started riding in sixth grade. Because you live in the country, you had a barn and access to lots of riding trails. Now what? Not every boarding school has equestrian facilities. But many do. So if bringing her horse with her to boarding school is important to her, go for it. The school will explain how its program works. Here is a video showing the equestrian program at George School, Newtown, Pennsylvania.
What about my singing lessons?
 
Your daughter began taking singing lessons in middle school. New England Conservatory and Julliard are in her sights. Now she has to give up the singing teacher she has been working with? Some boarding schools offer music and performing arts programs which rival those found at some colleges. Put finding a good singing teacher on your list of questions to ask the school. If they can't offer instruction in house, they will probably be able to help you find quality instruction locally. Ask. 
 
What about my allergy meds?
 
Your daughter has had allergies since she was a toddler. Her doctors have found the right medications to keep them under control. She still needs the reassurance that she can cope with the inevitable onset of an allergic event. Boarding schools know how to handle their students' medications and medical needs. Professionally and sensitively. Have that conversation with the school nurse. Understand how the school manages these situations. Make sure your daughter understands as well.
 
You and your daughter will probably have other questions to add to this list. These questions will get you started. The really important take away I want you to have from reading this article is to ask questions and get answers directly from the schools. Assume nothing. When you do that, boarding school is going to be a wonderful experience for your child. Just as it was for my children.

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