The Stony Brook School - Review #4

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The Stony Brook School

About the Author:

Years Attended Boarding School: 2003-2006
Sports and Activities:Soccer (Capt.Senior year) Swim Team Dorm Prefect AP Art-Painting Honor Council SBFL (flag football)
College Enrolled:Wheaton College
Home Town, State: Naperville, IL

Reflections and Advice:

1.) What do you think makes your school unique relative to other boarding schools?
The one thing that impacted me most at Stony Brook was the personal relationships the students had with the faculty. I loved eating meals with my teachers and getting to know their families. Their homes were always open to us-at all hours. Even though they had families of their own they always made time for the students. They were more than just teachers they were examples and mentors.
2.) What was the best thing that happened to you in boarding school?
The best thing that happened to me at Stony Brook was my own personal development. Stony Brook helped me to achieve my potential as a leader. The emphasis on servant leadership is unique to Stony Brook and it is truly amazing. The leadership opportunities even within the middle school is amazing. Stony Brook succeeds in making leaders who are passionate about their work, dedicated and serve for a higher purpose. I was dorm Prefect my senior year which was such a privilege. Working with the girls in my dorm and with the dorm moms was absolutely amazing. I have definitely gained confidence and grown deeper in my relationship with God from my time at Stony Brook. The amazing faculty have shaped me and have mentored me in such a special way, I will remember their examples forever.
3.) What might you have done differently during your boarding school experience?
I would advise for anyone going to Stony Brook that they take full advantage of the amazing Faculty. There are so many opportunities to eat in their homes, hear their stories and learn from them. I would have gone to many more "open houses" where the faculty open up their homes to all the students to come and hang out on the weekends.
4.) What did you like most about your school?
The thing I liked most about Stony Brook was the relationships and community. The community was astounding and can be found no where else. A small body but tightly united the Stony Brook school is a place where people are accepted- not for all believing the same thing, because they don't but people are accepted and loved for who they are and for the gifts they have. It is truly an incredible place to learn and grow in academics but even more so in your life. Stony Brook does live up to it's motto "Character Before Career." The teachers and people there seek to glorify God and they care about the students. The community aspect of Stony Brook was my favorite thing that I will miss.
5.) Do you have any final words of wisdom for visiting or incoming students to your school?
I definitely recommend Alexander dorm for any new upper-class girls! Also I recommend going to the village and having ice cream at the Brook house-Moosetracks!! mmmmmm!! The cellar door is also fun to play pool and games.


1.) Describe the academics at your school - what did you like most about it?
There is always opportunities to get help. Stony Brook had an excellent tutor program that partnered kids up with other students for help. The teachers are-literally-always available and more than willing to help. You can get personal attention from the teachers, after dinner, during the weekends-any time and they will answer all your questions. Even if they have families and other obligations I felt that I could always go to my teacher and they made time to meet with me and answer my questions. The community aspect of Stony Brook was rare and so amazing. The teachers and faculty truly, truly care. Not only about Academics but about how you are doing personally and what is going on in your lives. It's not just about grades although the classes are challenging and prepare you well, they don't only care about your grades. I also LOVED the trips into NYC. We went on quite a few excursions to visit Museums and plays for History and English. That was so much fun and so beneficial. In my 3 years at Stony Brook I went into NYC for school-related things probably about 7 times.


1.) Describe the athletics at your school - what did you like most about it?
The athletics at Stony Brook are not as intense as you might find in a large public school because sports are required and there are limited athletes to choose from to make a team. Despite that, the teams are full of energy and enthusiasm. I loved playing sports at Stony Brook because I was able to meet and hang out with people that I normally wouldn't have met. Having parties at Day student's houses was also a lot of fun! They canceled the Swim team after my sophomore year so I picked up soccer which I had done before but not for a few years. Most sports are coached by a faculty member. This is also nice because you see them throughout the day/during the week not just at practice so you can have more of a relationship with your coaches outside of your sport.

Art, Music, and Theatre:

1.) Describe the arts program at your school - what did you like most about it?
I did a lot in the Visual Arts department of Stony Brook. My junior year I took drawing and painting and then my senior year I did a 2-d Painting Concentration for AP Art. One thing that I loved about doing art at Stony Brook was that I could go in when I had time and do my work. The art room was open for me to use even when the teacher wasn't there. Also, my senior year I was able to commute into the city on Saturday mornings and take a Interior Design class at Parson's school of Design in NYC. That was a great experience. There are also amazing art museums and galleries in NYC. It is a short train ride into the city and the art is fabulous!

Extracurricular Opportunities:

1.) Describe the extracurriculars offered at your school - what did you like most about it?
I loved being Prefect of my dorm, Alexander. There are 12 chosen Senior Prefects for the school such as: dorm, academic, head, activities... Being a prefect enabled me to have so much influence on the girls in my dorm but more than that I was able to get involved in the decision making aspects of my dorm. They give the Prefect board a lot of responsibility and privilege when it comes to making decisions in the dorm as well as in the school. They gave us freedom to use money how we thought beneficial (with guidance) we were able to improve different aspects of the school.

Dorm Life:

1.) Describe the dorm life in your school - what did you like most about it?
The dorm was my most favorite part about Stony Brook. I could talk forever about how much I loved my dorm. There were about 20 girls in my dorm, Alexander. I lived there all 3 years that I was at Stony Brook. My senior year, the dorm council and I made a "dorm store". We sold snacks and drinks and cheap prices all the proceeds going to the dorm. The kitchen in the lounge is nice. There isn't an oven so you can't cook but if you really wanted to you could use a dorm mom's kitchen or a faculty home. Whenever I wanted to make cookies or something there was always a place to go. Rooms are chosen the year before by seniority. If you are a new student you'll get assigned a room and a roommate. A lot of prayer goes into deciding roommates and dorms for new students. I was so blessed to have a wonderful roommate-the same roommate all 3years. After your first year you can choose your roommate. There's a window in every room, a desk, closet, bed, small set of drawers, light... 7-11 is right down the road and at certain hours you can go and get food there. There's also a vending machine in the bottom of the Dining Hall. I absolutely loved the dorm life at Stony Brook. We had dorm challenges and competed dorm against dorm. There was such strong unity within the dorms and yet all of the students mingled and were friends. We would do crazy games at dorm challenges like obstacle courses or trivia. I loved it! My dorm parents are probably what impacted me the most about Stony Brook-definitely. I had two dorm moms living in the dorm and then 3 outside who just came to do duty one night a week during study hours. One of my dorm moms made a huge breakfast every Sunday for the whole dorm. She led a breakfast bible study. It wasn't just bagels it was waffles, yogurt, granola, bacon, muffins etc... every week. That was one of my favorite times. Laughing together over breakfast and just being in my dorm mom's home every week was so so special. I still continue to write both my dorm moms. The dorm life at Stony Brook is exceptional. I can't say enough good things.


1.) Describe the dining arrangements at your school.
The dining hall at Stony Brook is not bad at all. There is always eggs for breakfast and a choice between french toast, pancakes or whatever the special is for the day. They have cereal and oatmeal and stuff as well. Breakfast was optional and casual. For lunch there was a hot meal and then a salad bar, deli bar and soup option. I always liked lunch. For middle school lunch is required and formal-you had assigned seats and it was a sit down meal. For upper-classmen lunch was optional and you could sit wherever you wanted. Dinner was always formal except Friday. On Friday you could wear jeans. Tables for dinner are assignment and this enables you to meet a lot of new people and faculty. Every 2weeks the tables change. There is 3 meals a day except for the weekends where there is brunch and dinner only.

Social and Town Life:

1.) Describe the school's town and surrounding area.
The town of Stony Brook is so lovely. The Village which is about a mile away has a lot of cool restaurants and small shops. I used to run to the Village because it's on the water, I'd run the village path almost every day in the Fall and Spring. There are so many different routes you can run and it is very safe. Port Jefferson is in the other direction, you can get there by train or cab. People have walked but it's a farther distance. There are cool shops down there as well as the Ferry and many restaurants. I liked the Village the most because it was small and quaint. The towns around Stony Brook are fairly small but NYC is only a train ride away. The train station is right across the street from school so it's so so so easy just to hop on the train and head to the city for some energy.
2.) Describe the social life at your school - what did you like most about it?
One unique thing about the social life at Stony Brook was that all the grades interacted. My senior year I was playing kickball with a bunch of middle school boys and girls. I was just laughing because here I am, a senior, playing games with the middle schoolers and having so much fun! There is definitely a distinct unity among the students which is unique to Stony Brook. The faculty is always willing to drive students places-to the movies etc.. and there is a great bus route that takes students around to the mall, movies etc.

Daily Schedule:

8:00 AMget up
9:00 AMclass
11:30 AMLunch
3:00 PMClass
3:15 PMSports
6:15 PMDinner
7:15 PMfree time
8:00 PMStudy Hours
11:00 PMBed
11:00 AMBrunch
12:00 AMhang out, play sports////Sun-Chapel 11am
6:00 PMdinner
7:00 PMstudy
11:00 AMbed
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